What you're saying does make sense, though! And you're right that people do say things like that a lot.
... I guess maybe one difference, besides the clinical diagnosis thing you pointed out, is that it's talking about your own family vs. talking about other people's families? I mean, LOADS of people talk about how their parents screwed them up, but it's a lot less common for people to do that to other people -- "I have this problem because of my parents" is not that uncommon (and it might be based on actual reality, childhood resentment, or some combination of the two), but "YOU have this problem so your parents must have done [x/y/x thing wrong]" is a lot less common for most disorders. In the past, yes, but not so much these days, especially if you're talking about strangers whose parents you know nothing about.
But eating disorders tend to be an exception to that. And I can't help thinking it's got something to do with how heavily gendered they are, in general public perception if not in actual reality.
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... I guess maybe one difference, besides the clinical diagnosis thing you pointed out, is that it's talking about your own family vs. talking about other people's families? I mean, LOADS of people talk about how their parents screwed them up, but it's a lot less common for people to do that to other people -- "I have this problem because of my parents" is not that uncommon (and it might be based on actual reality, childhood resentment, or some combination of the two), but "YOU have this problem so your parents must have done [x/y/x thing wrong]" is a lot less common for most disorders. In the past, yes, but not so much these days, especially if you're talking about strangers whose parents you know nothing about.
But eating disorders tend to be an exception to that. And I can't help thinking it's got something to do with how heavily gendered they are, in general public perception if not in actual reality.